Guys who add girls on social online networking don't really expect a real friendship out of the supposed "friendship".

Well of course there are exceptions, but I must say there are quite a number of guys who do that (you had better own up if you're one of them).

I'm not trying to be a sexist or something, I'm just stating my point (there is freedom of speech in this world I tell you!).

I have concerns about this matter. Is this what our generation is becoming of? I'm truly disappointed.

And what may I ask do they first see when they add you as a "friend"?

Any takers? :D

No? D:

Oh well... I'll tell you. Looks. Appearance. Outer beauty. And any other words with the same meaning.

Isn't this all too fake? I know first impressions are important and make a great impact, but that shouldn't be the main reason to want to be your "friend". It's madness.

After what I have said, I can categorize guys into 3 groups.

They persist in getting your msn or your number. Super duper highly persistent! Then maybe after getting the "precious info", they'll try to ask to stead. Like seriously, hello? They're "falling in love" with someone they hardly know? *knock knock knock* Wake up dummies, this is reality and not a drama show. Then after you had rejected him, he will ditch you like you never existed at all. But I suppose that's a relief,nno? You've been spared from all the harassment (yays! ^^).

So maybe they do not *pop* the question in the most direct way. Most will talk to you like both of you have been best friends since like forever, and maybe some will go straight to this question, "Are you attached?" Then of course if he's "lucky" and "hit" the right girl, she's apparently single. (: If she's attached, well maybe they will wait till she's single if they truly believe that she's the one. If not, their friendship may still grow like normal or if it comes to the worst, they don't really talk anymore (which sorta is like hi-bye friends).

So, what if she's single? Well, it's a whole new story. (: Slowly working through their friendship, he will eventually get to that question! How exciting ain't it? But of course this goes 2 ways. :D If she's also interested in him, congratulations, your hard work and sincerity paid off! You've got your girl. ^^ But if not, for various reasons, he might continue chasing after her if he believes that she's the right one or he might just give up and move on to another "target". When a girl says no, she means it. So, I should suggest not to waste your time unless you really feel that she's just not ready and you are willing to wait.

But, if that friendship was growing to be a genuine one, and if that question was asked, it might have ruined it depending on where it goes. Just a precaution. (:

Normally guys in this category are from category #2. But from 2 ways.

One is before asking "the question". And two is after asking "the question".

Before asking "the question", the guy may have shown interest in a way due to looks. But maybe after getting to know the real you, meaning your real self, they might be disappointed, maybe to the extend of VERY DISAPPOINTED (awww...). So after that, both of you are as good as before, but maybe he might not show that much interest anymore.

After asking "the question", and sadly was rejected, the friendship might still remain. However it might be, I would think it had already been jeopardized by "the question". SAD.

The exceptional guys would be ones that genuinely want to make friends with people. Not just with a pretty face, but everyone. :D These guys are really awesome friends-to-be, I can tell you. :D

I guess that's all. :D You can pretty categorize them yourself. :D

I know some girls really look how they look like in pictures (meaning super chio aka pretty ttm) but still, one's character is the most important virtue of all. No matter how much money or time you had put into your exterior appearance, it can never hold a candle to a beautiful character. Character wins hands down, that's for sure. :D

I mean sure, who wouldn't want a pretty girlfriend? I'm just saying so as to not let this lead you wrongly to what you think it might be. This is called deception.

I was thinking of something to write but after using all my brain cells to categorize most guys, I had forgotten what I had wanted to write. Hmm...

In my own opinion, a guy might think he have won my heart. But, I will never give my whole heart to any single guy. Never in my lifetime would I do that, unless he is my husband and deserves it fully. The same goes for tears. You might get hurt and all, before, during and after a relationship, but never tear for a guy who doesn't deserve you. If a guy hurts you, he is not worthy at all. Who is he to hurt you like this?

I really do think friendship is way better than a relationship. The atmosphere is a whole lot different.

Sometimes I wonder if I'm mixed up between love and friendship. For a person who doesn't have many close friends, is all I am asking for just company? I might start to get confused between just company and love. I think I was never born to love. With the mindset that I will never give my whole heart to any guy, how far would that bring me in love?

Sure I might get envious of couples and wished that I had a boyfriend, but isn't he just someone who keeps me company? Maybe that's what I'm looking for. I don't need a guy in my life who might manipulate me, who might change how I think, who might hurt me and so on. All I need is God.

I don't need a guy to live, period.

And I don't think I can love anymore, knowing the sad fact of our generation.

And even if I do, it wouldn't be with all my heart.

I don't trust anymore because I have been enlightened by the truth.

I'll just play along this experiment and see how right I am (or how wrong too). You might think, "Charissa is just toying around with guys!", but nopes you're wrong. Shouldn't it be the other way? :D I'm just trying to comprehend the truth in this whole matter. I want to understand how it all works. So un-friend me if you think I'm a horrible friend because for all you know, I might just be "playing with you". I dare you to. (:

Anyone up for my dare? :D

This is just one of those things that my mind cannot grasp its simple concept, totally unfathomable because we can never truly understand we human beings.

I hope I have stirred some thoughts in your mind. (:

P.S. I know my "audience" of whom I'm "talking" to keeps changing. So what? This is not an English essay and this is my style. (: Like it or not. :D

If it seems too good to be true, well that's because it is.